If you were only allowed to share a message that was one sentence long for ever and ever what would it be?
Mine would be this.
***You can do whatever you want to do, and be whoever you want to be and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise***
I think that’s it in a nutshell.
You control your own destiny. And as soon as you try and stand up and do something that is different, against the norm the whole world will try and persuade you not to.
But you can ignore them.
And the people who try and stop you the most will be those who love you the most.
And that’s hard. And that hurts. Because those people are supposed to want the best for us, aren’t they?
And they do. In their own way. Which is different from your way.
Which is where the problem comes in.
Their way is different from your way.
My mum would have loved me to have the perfect life. This meant staying married to Wayne, staying working in the city, having 2 children and going on holiday once a year, drinking wine every night and being happy with it.
I do have the perfect life. I am on my own with 4 kids and a million animals and haven’t worked for someone else for about 10 years. I don’t drink alcohol and the kids and I plan to go away somewhere every month this year if we can.
See the difference? EVERYTHING.
She thinks that my life is stressful. I think that her version of a perfect life would be stressful. All that pretending to be someone else. Who has time for that?
So stand up for yourself and do what is right for you. Because I promise you that nobody else is going to turn around and do what is right for you.
Nobody.
Apart from you. And if you don’t do it, then that leaves NOBODY.
Nobody to stick up for you. Nobody to fight your corner.
Now was not the right time for Trinity to get a pony. I know that. You don’t all have to tell me. I’m renting a house in the middle of a housing estate, the paddock is 10 mins drive from home. I can’t afford to buy a horse right now. Yes yes yes, I heard you tell me it all.
But now was the right time because it came together. A horse that looked perfect was available on loan, the cost of feeding him is less than her horse riding lessons were, a paddock became available that I could trade for some social media work. The paddock is on the way to school. Ping ping ping ping ping. Let’s do it.
It worked. Yes its a bit messy and involves a change in routine and some juggling but good god people have you met me? Juggling and change in routine are my middle names.
Kerrie Jane Juggling and Change in Routine Rycroft at your service.
Stop believing you can’t do things. Stop holding yourself back. You can do whatever you want to do.
So there.