When I made the appointment with her over text I gave her a fake name and didn’t tell her where I got her number from. When I walked in she asked me to show her photos of my family and give me the dates of birth of my children and partner. I gave her mine and the kids dates of births but didnt tell her anythign about a partner. She asked and I told her I was single. She looked at me like she didnt believe me and said OK then. She did some numerology stuff and told me so much about my kids, she knew which were boys and girls and described their personalities, health stuff and my worries about them to perfection. Then I showed her the photos of them and hubby.
She asked for hubbys date of birth as even though we are not together she said he still loves me and I’m a big part of his life. She described our relationship over the last 5 years without me telling her anything and told me that she thought that I had left him and taken nothing with me. She said that it didnt look as though I missed him or was in love with him any more or even that I missed my home or possessions. She said that I had made the right decision although it was going to be hard for the next year as hubby wouldnt want to let me go and would fight with me as much as he could. She described a lot of his actions so far and said that he would make certain threats, some of which he already had. She told me to be careful. I cried. She said that she didn’t see any danger in my future but she did see lots of anger.
She told me that the next 6 months were going to be a struggle financially and that after March next year I would be in a much better place ££ wise. She told me that she was very confused about my current job (haha, aren’t we all) and that she didn’t understand it at all. She said it should be a short term job as there was more out there for me and this was good for me at this stage of my life but not for long.
She told me that my hubby had accused me of having an affair a lot and that although there was someone in my life now that I would probably have a relationship with that I shouldn’t at the moment because I had to be wholesome and make sure hubby had nothign to throw back at me. She said that he would react very badly if he saw me with someone else and that I should just be very careful what I do or say around him. She said I should enjoy the next year and date lots of people and have lots of fun (oh, OK then) but that I would settle down in about a years time and have 2 more children. Ha ha ha ha ha. Oh god, really? Do I have to?
She got the family shit spot on with everythign that she said about financial support vs emotional support and my mothers realationship with me. She talked about some of the businessy type plans that my best buddy and I have been making and said that while they would never make me millions I would be able to support my children and myself and that I would be comfortable.
There was so so much more but she knew enough to make me believe in it all over again. For me the big areas that I wanted to talk about were had I made the right decision in leaving hubby and what the hell was happening with me ££ wise. I actually wasn’t bothered about the love information but she did keep going on about I would meet the perfect person and settle down with them. I told her I wasn’t convinced by that but she just smiled. She said there was nothing bad in my cards at all, apart from the need to be careful with hub and make sure I protect and look after myself. She said that the kids would be fine and that whatever else happened hub and I would always be great parents, but that we would probably never be able to be good friends. He would always love me and although he will also remarry that I should ask for a divorce sooner rather than later.
So, what do I think? I’m glad she didn’t say that I had made the biggest mistake of my life. I am sad that she thinks hub will continue to make it hard for me and that I need to ask for a divorce. I was hoping we could drift along as we are for a while and I think we might just do that. I’m not strong enough yet to ask for a divorce. What she said about things that happened last weekend made me slightly scared, how could she know so much when I told her so little. I really just sat there and stared and nodded and shook my head. I didn’t volunteer anything. I arrived looking like shit with my nails bitten to the quick having had a cry in the car on the way over yet she didn’t assume from those signs that I was the one who had been left, she knew I had walked and she knew I was happy about it.
It was an amazing experience and although there were 2 things she said in the half hour that made me think, “no, you’re not right about that” she was amazingly accurate with everything else. Frighteningly accurate in fact.